On a side note, to just answer your title...I recommend not having the baby on your honeymoon! I suggest the honeymoon first, the baby later! *snickers* (At least I made myself laugh...hope you found it funny!)
kitten whiskers
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Baby??? honeymoon??? a certain time to have them??
by angel eyes inhas anyone ever heard anything wrong with having a honeymoon baby??.
just wanted to ask as i was told by an elder two weeks before i married "dont you dare have a honeymoon baby"......
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Baby??? honeymoon??? a certain time to have them??
by angel eyes inhas anyone ever heard anything wrong with having a honeymoon baby??.
just wanted to ask as i was told by an elder two weeks before i married "dont you dare have a honeymoon baby"......
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kitten whiskers
I haven't heard of anything wrong with it. There are just always busybodies and gossips who have to count and "see" if something looks wrong.
It was very rude and unchristian of that elder to have said such a thing. I am assuming he is speaking to a young virgin and implying improper conduct. That is spiritually devestating to someone who is following all the guideline. It gives off the feeling of distrust. What a jerk.
I think he was implying, " Don't have a baby too close to the wedding date. We would have to count out the 40 weeks and that could put conception before the wedding. Even if the baby is naturally early, we would have to form a judicial committee and may have to disfellowship you." It is just a veiled threat. It is a terrible and evil way of thinking. It is JW thinking!
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I made it!!!
by purplesofa into fifty!!.
never dreamed life would be as it is now, .
there are times i did not think i would make it.
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kitten whiskers
Happy Birthday!
Happy Birthday!
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The long term effects of losing friends and family through shunning
by finding my way ini've recently been thinking about this topic as i've been finding old friends on facebook etc.
that were just gone one day because either their whole family da'd themselves or they had been df'd.
not to mention the friends i lost when i myself was df'd.. most of my life i found this losing of friends normal because it was what i was used to.
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kitten whiskers
Finding my way,
When we are raised to treat people who displease us like a used kleenex to be thrown away, that messes us up! A true loving relationship tries to work through problems. When we discard people, we aren't learning the skills we need for long term relationships. It is hard to develope them later in life than it is as a child!
I know I found that when I bought an "American Girl" book on how to make friends, that there are some useful skills that children use that I can use. We were taught to ignore and not feel a kinship toward those we went to school with, toward unbelieving relatives, toward people in general. It is a warped way of thinking and behaving. It takes time to overcome. We have to learn skills that should be deeply ingrained by now. I guess it's like learning the alphabet when you are 40. You should have already been taught this by those responsible for your care in your youth...but you can do it now. It will be harder and require more dedication, but it can be mastered. Don't give up. Baby steps. Keep taking baby steps!
All the best to you!
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boozing as a jw
by Adrianoblue ini got babtized at the age of 23. i was not a so called born in guy.
i started studying the bible at 20, and before that i never heard of the jw-religion.
so everything was pretty new for me.. to make a long story short: a month or so after baptizm, i felt probably lonley one evenig and got drunk right out of my brains.
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kitten whiskers
I can't touch the stuff...not for lack of wishing I could have a nice drink and relax at times...it just has an almost allegic reaction in me. I hit the floor with Ny-Quil! It's a wonder I can bake cookies with vanilla extract! (Yes, I know the alcohol cooks off...that's why I use it in cooking pot roast! At least I get some flavor if not the real deal!)
But I know all the younger ones we were friends with rely heavily on booze for a good time. Their Facebook pages all show them with a drink in thier hand. It makes me sad. It's their way of coping...hanging out and drinking. Most of them started before being of legal age. They all were raised in the religion and keep a tight circle with each other. They play instruments, play pool, ski, dirtbike, skateboard...do normal young adult activities. But drinking is always prominent.
I know one couple with two beautiful little girls that have left and are now having drinking parties and smoking weed and just behaving indecently. It's like they want to leave JW world, but have lost all moral values along the way. I don't understand it. They were such a nice couple. I worry about their kids, and hope they are at Grandma's when Mom and Dad are doing all this. I haven't talked to them in years, but I saw the pics on thier MySpace page and it repulsed me. It's not a good environment.
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New here
by goldensky indear all,.
i discovered this site only a couple of weeks ago and i already feel affection for you.. i am a 48-year-old woman and i live in spain, where i was born and raised, so i apologize in advance for my inevitable lack of style and possible grammar mistakes, due to english not being my native tongue.. i grew up in the truth and jehovah and the congregation have filled my whole life.
i've had little contact with the outside world.
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kitten whiskers
Dear Goldensky,
Welcome! Your positive attitude is wonderful! And Stephen is right, God did lead you as he did many of us, just not the way we expected. That's my opinion anyway! I prayed so hard and knew I wasn't leaving God, but he led me out. I too went through a time of doubt. When you lose God as you percieved him your whole life...of course you doubt. But when you get that new bible, talk to those in other religions and just let the Holy Spirit lead you, you find him in a whole new way. It seems as if He is changed...although he doesn't. He is the same now and forever, but our perception and understanding changes. That is something wonderful! I am still learning and still feel like I am only touching the edges of who God really is, but I have to be patient. He was patient with me. I have to be patient too.
Congratulations! Enjoy your freedom and take things on your own timetable. We are rewiring our thinking and "knee jerk" responses!
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New Light: Don't hold hands during prayers
by RR infrom the watchtower november 15 study edition.. 19 when we are being represented in public prayer, we need to display reverential "fear of god.
" (1 pet 2:17) there may be a proper time and place for some actions that would be inappropriate at a christian meeting.
(eccl 3:1) for instance, suppose someone sought to have all in a group link arms or hold hands during prayer.
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I haven't been so mad about their stupid controling ways in quite a while! When is this article supposed to be "studied"?
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New Light: Don't hold hands during prayers
by RR infrom the watchtower november 15 study edition.. 19 when we are being represented in public prayer, we need to display reverential "fear of god.
" (1 pet 2:17) there may be a proper time and place for some actions that would be inappropriate at a christian meeting.
(eccl 3:1) for instance, suppose someone sought to have all in a group link arms or hold hands during prayer.
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kitten whiskers
ahahahahahaha! The insanity of it all!
My goodness...we must have seemed like porn stars! We held hands and embraced, and I think I even snuck in a quick peck on the cheek afterward.
My word what a bunch of animal poo!
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You are Still Special After Exiting the Witnesses-You Have a Purpose in Life
by flipper ini wanted to post this as we have so many new ones on the board here - i thought they might benefit from some uplifting words from steve hassan's book " releasing the bonds " .
many newly exiting the jw 's feel lost , like they don't know what to do , or where to turn, what causes that ?
notice these quotes from steve hassan .. on pg.
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kitten whiskers
Mr Flipper...didn't you just post the one about Susan Boyle too? I always enjoy your posts! You are an eternal spring of kindness and encouragement!
Your heart is so tender and helping to those in dire need of acceptance and encouragement at such a dark hour in thier lives. I hope you recieve many blessings for your gift of reaching out and how well you have put that to use.
Outlaw....you make me laugh with all your tongue-in-cheek comments! You really help balance out the board and keep us entertained! Cheers!
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I'm new, let me introduce myself
by no lies please ini've been lurking here for many months.
i served as an elder for many years, and regular pioneer for much longer until recently.
i'm also a mts grad and was used extensively on the circuit and district level.
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kitten whiskers
Welcome and thank you for sharing!
I hope you find yourself comforted here and find the real joy and peace we can have outside of the Witnesses! It takes a while to work things through and make the decisions for yourself that were "served" to you before at the Kingdom Hall. (I was raised as a JW, so it was ingrained). But you will find peace and happiness as you do!